Friday, August 25, 2023

Classroom Management

This week's article summary is What No One Told Me About Classroom Management as a New Teacher. It’s written by Carol Ann Tomlinson, the guru of differentiation in the classroom, about her first-year experiences teaching high school history.

As you’ll see, even a legendary educator like Tomlinson started her teaching career as a blank slate and learned over time from her classroom experience what students of all ages need.

The secret is identical to last week’s summary: we all need positive relationships and a sense of belonging to maximize our potential.

I really like how Tomlinson bases her teaching on displaying care for her students by ‘seeing, hearing, accepting, and valuing’ them as unique individuals. The old teaching adage of ‘your students don’t care about how much you know until they know how much you care’ is true. Their trust in you comes from the care you show them.

Particularly in these first days of school, we are establishing a classroom culture of learning and mutual, interdependent respect. Getting kids to see that they help others learn is vital.

Ultimately, a successful school year comes from all of us enjoying one another’s company and committing to supporting and helping one another.

Joe

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In my first year of teaching, I had virtually no useful content knowledge, no pedagogical knowledge, and no rules for classroom management. 

But I did have some worthy, if wholly undeveloped, instincts. Those instincts saved me from my worst fears and bought me some time to begin understanding what passable teaching looks like—and, over the years, what aspirational teaching looks like.

As each week passed, my vision and sense of what it means to be a teacher began to develop. Although I rarely understood cause and effect in the moment, the next six months in the company of those high school sophomores and juniors helped me lay a foundation for what we often call classroom management. 

Here are the lessons I learned.

See, Hear, Value, and Accept Each Student as an Individual: Effective "classroom management" and effective teaching begin with a teacher who is, to a significant degree, smitten with the students as individual human beings and relishes the opportunity to make a difference in their lives. Young people need to feel seen, heard, accepted, and valued. They experience learning in a far more motivating context when they see that their teacher wants to teach them important things than when they conclude that the teacher is largely about teaching content and that their presence in the classroom is secondary. This caring is the foundation of trust between students and teachers and thus the foundation of effective classroom management and effective teaching.

Structure the Class in Service of Learning: Learning requires structure and order, but the structure and order should be in service of learning—not for the sake of demonstrating who’s in charge. If the first day of school is about going over classroom procedures and listening to the consequences of violating them, students will find it difficult to feel that the environment is safe and welcoming or that the teacher finds them trustworthy. Young people, like all of us, need structure in their lives but how and why teachers go about establishing that order makes a great difference. 

Effective Teaching Naturally Leads to Effective Classroom Management: Effective classroom management is not a separate entity from effective teaching. If “what” we teach and “how” we teach are lively, varied, sometimes surprising, often joyful and meaningful, both teachers and learners are largely relieved from the burdens implicit in teacher-student power struggles. 

Plan Proactively for When Lessons Go South: When we plan proactively for predictable classroom malfunctions, both we and our students are likely to be able to respond in ways that prevent derailments or at least maintain the dignity of those involved. We eliminate many, if not most, of the reasons students act out when we have a plan for when a lesson goes awry, when students get restless, whether to address (or ignore) minor or more significant behavioral issues, when lessons are just a bit briefer than the general attention span in a class, or when the work we ask students to do is neither consistently too difficult nor consistently too simple for their various points of entry into the work. 

Humanizing the Classroom: I still dream about having a chance to reteach that year. There are so many things I would change. And yet, I never again saw the unruly, trash-talking, defiant teens with whom I spent the last day in my adult life when I was not technically a teacher. Perhaps the most important lesson they taught me was that effective "classroom management"—and, in fact, the better part of effective teaching—pivots on humanizing the classroom.

Friday, August 18, 2023

The Secret to a Happy Life

This week's article summary is 9 Simple Habits for a Happy Life, and it’s about The Harvard Happiness Study I referenced a number of times during preplanning.

For almost all of us the key to finding happiness is the quality and frequency of our relationships.

As we begin new school year, remember to keep relationships—those with your students, with your colleagues, with your students’ parents—at the forefront.

As you’ll see in the habits below, developing strong relationships takes active intentionality. To further strengthen our relationships,  we need to cultivate them.

A new school year is a great time to set goals. Let’s strive every school day to further strengthen our existing relationships and to reach out to someone to start a new one!

Thank you for such a positive start to the school year! The positive, collegial energy we created during preplanning has palpably extended into the first days of school. Enjoy the weekend!

Joe

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This is a story about simple habits to improve your happiness and fulfillment in life. It's inspired by the key findings of a huge Harvard University study of happiness that's gone on for more than 80 years. It's the Harvard Study of Adult Development, which has followed more than 700 people from the late 1930s until today. The study's current leaders have a new book out: The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness.

Here’s the bottom line: Good relationships keep us healthier and happier. 

Here are some simple habits that can help you improve the quality of your relationships, based on the Harvard Study, other research, and additional sources.

Take stock of your relationships: We can't improve things if we don't measure them. So, as unromantic as it might seem, it makes sense to assess which relationships are important to you, which ones have proven less so, and which ones you wish were better.

Nurture casual relationships: We'll get into some of the things that you can do to improve the truly high-impact, nurturing relationships in you life. But, our lives are largely made up of very casual bonds. Think of all the simple relationships you have with people -- maybe even people whose names you don't know. For example, the crossing guard I say hello to while taking my daughter to school. Sometimes these relationships evolve. Other times they remain constant. But, in both cases, they're important.

Make time for conversations: This is a fantastic habit, and as it happens we have brand new academic support for it. A study out of the University of Kansas suggests that the simple act of reaching out to a friend for conversation -- at least once a day I you can manage it -- increases people's happiness and lowers their stress. “The more that you listened to your friends, the more that you showed care, the more that you took time to value others' opinions, the better you felt at the end of the day.”

Cultivate kindness: Researchers at Michigan State University combed through data on 2,500 long-term married couples (20 or more years) to determine their aptitude in five dimensions: extraversion, agreeableness, conscientiousness, emotional stability, and openness to experience. Those who reported higher levels of agreeableness and emotional stability also reported greater relationship happiness. "People invest a lot in finding someone who's compatible, but our research says that may not be the 'end-all, be-all. Instead, people may want to ask, 'Are they a nice person?' 'Do they have a lot of anxiety?' Those things matter way more." Be kind to the people you care about. 

Volunteer: To develop better relationships, make time to volunteer. Studies showed that men and women who took time to volunteer, even just a few hours a week, met more people, formed relationships with more people, and took pride and satisfaction in the volunteer work they were doing.

Learn to apologize: Sometimes, nurturing relationships means repairing relationships. And repairing relationships often means making apologies and making amends. There's a whole theory attached to how to apologize and when -- whether to use language that centers your apology on you or gives power to the other person ("I'm sorry" versus "Please forgive me," for example). All else being equal, however, the more other-centered your apology, the more powerful and effective it can be.

Ask questions: We all like to talk about ourselves. Even the introverts among us, given the right circumstances, have things they'd love to expound on. If you want to improve a relationship with someone, therefore, ask questions. If someone is looking for advice don't tell them what you think they should do; ask them questions that can help guide them to the right answer.

Express your love: I don't necessarily mean go around telling everyone you love them. Instead, there are many ways to love, and many ways to express it. Maybe it's the friend you volunteer to pick up at the airport, or to fix something broken at their house. Maybe it's the person you know who is working hard to achieve something, and you go out of your way to tell them you respect what they're doing. Maybe it's the person who doesn't know how much of an impact she's had, and you take the time to express gratitude.

Be willing to be vulnerable: Relationships involve risks, especially at the beginning. So, be willing to take them. As a practical example, if you want to make friends and develop great relationships, use the rule of three overturns -- meaning, be willing to try to start conversations or set up plans and be rejected three times before giving up. Once for the possibility that they didn't get or understand the message. Once for the possibility that they simply forgot or didn't have time to reply. Once for the possibility that it's their ego or fear getting in the way. The more people you try to make plans with, the more attempts you make, and the more opportunities you'll have to build good relationships. And, the sooner you can inoculate your ego against rejection -- recognizing that in big things and small, it's probably "them, not you" -- the happier you'll likely be.

 

Thursday, August 10, 2023

The Unwritten Rules of Conversation

Thank you all for an uplifting and productive first week of preplanning! So much positive energy, camaraderie, dialogue, and consistent messaging!

For me, there’s always a blend of excitement and nervousness as we begin prepping for and putting the finishing touches on what’s needed for a smooth opening of school as we get ready to welcome back our students and their parents next week.

Preplanning is my favorite time of year, specifically the opportunity for us to learn, grow, collaborate, and socialize together.

This year there’s a very palpable esprit de corps! 

For those of you new to Trinity, most Fridays during the school year, I send out a summary of an article that piqued my interest and that I hope provokes thought in you as well.

I don’t agree with every article, yet I enjoy ones that make me think, challenge me to reflect on my educational beliefs, and even confront my educational biases. As we discussed this week, keeping an open mind and being less judgmental are critical to being more accepting of others.

This week’s article summary is “The Hidden Heart of Every Conversation” from Psychology Today.

As much of preplanning has focused on the importance of relationships, this first summary is a reminder of the dos and don’ts of conversations in our jobs as well as our personal lives.

Within a school, we all have many daily interactions with students, colleagues, and parents as well as a myriad of meetings large and small. While teams typically establish team meeting norms, I find most of the time we informally operate under the unwritten rules below. 

I’m guessing most of us are better at monitoring ourselves than pointing out to others when they break these norms. Yesterday, one book talk group mentioned ‘wise criticism’, providing constructive suggestions for improving while doing so in a positive, productive manner.

I especially enjoyed the six habits to avoid, as I’ve been guilty of all six and have friends and family members break them as well.

Thanks again for a great start of the school year! Enjoy the last weekend of summer!

Joe

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Even though very few of us get formal instruction on how to conduct a conversation, we follow several “culturally absorbed conventions” that foster cooperation and increase the chance that a chat will be rewarding:
  • Mutuality: Taking turns
  • Relevance: What’s said relates to what has been said before
  • Quantity; Saying enough to be informative, but not too much
  • Quality: Being truthful
  • Manner; Being direct and clear, unless there’s a good reason not to.
Below are six conversational habits to avoid:
  • Interrupting, which can make it seem we don’t care what the other person is saying
  • Story-topping, which shifts the conversation from connection to competition
  • Being right, which makes the conversation about winning an argument
  • Being all-knowing, explaining information without being asked for our expertise
  • Bright-siding: Always encouraging others to be positive can feel invalidating
  • Advice-giving when our conversational partner just wants empathy